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10+ Things I (we) Think... Aretha's Homegoing Service
Aretha's fune (because seasoned saints don't pronounce all the letters) was the home going of a lifetime. It was the longest, Blackest...
Ashley Gray
Sep 2, 20182 min read


A letter to myself.
There are some experiences that will have you thinking that you've lost your mind. That you're not seeing the world as it is. Things that...
Ashley Gray
Jul 26, 20181 min read


10 Things I Think... Confessions of a Metro Vixen Part II
1. Bethany. She's rocking a parliament shirt made out of scrub material and a cloth golf visor made of the same material. She has enough...
Ashley Gray
Jul 23, 20184 min read


VulnHERable Part 1
This is a series that's hard for me to start, but necessary. This is the part where I get honest about my life in hopes that my...
Ashley Gray
Jul 18, 20184 min read


10 Things I think... Chronicles of a Metro Vixen
This title sounds a lot more risqué than my actual train rides, however when I'm on the train, the people watching and narrative creating...
Ashley Gray
Jul 7, 20184 min read


10 Things I think... Brave*ish Edition
I've been wrestling with this concept for a while. I like to think I'm pretty brave, but there's a really fine line between bravery and...
Ashley Gray
Jun 3, 20185 min read


Dating Application
We apply for everything. Like everything. Why should we not apply to date one another? Well if I were to have a dating application it...
Ashley Gray
May 19, 20181 min read
"The One that Got Away"
I can remember many conversations in which a previous partner said these words. "Ash, you're the one that got away." Or, "There was...
Ashley Gray
Mar 24, 20182 min read


I'm unlearning control.
Some people give up carbs. Some people give up sugar. Others give up simpler things like ratchet tv or Law and Order SVU because it makes...
Ashley Gray
Mar 21, 20183 min read


10 Things I Think... Maybe being a cat lady ain't so bad.
I'm single. It ain't tragic. What is tragic? Dating in the District. Nah. Nope. I'll get me a nice hairless cat named Duke Ellington and...
Ashley Gray
Mar 15, 20184 min read


10 Things I think... soul cycle edition
I went to my first spinning class. I'm now convinced folks who spin regularly are masochists. Here's my story of surviving the wheels of...
Ashley Gray
Mar 11, 20184 min read


10 things I think... My First National Conference Presentation
So a litte background... I presented on #BlackWomenatWork: The role of gendered racial microaggressions against Black women leaders in...
Ashley Gray
Mar 9, 20184 min read


10 Things I think... Black Panther Edition (no spoilers)
1. Ain't no HOTEPS in Wakanda!!! First of all, I'm sure the patchouli oil would be off putting. And second, misogyny has no place. We run...
Ashley Gray
Feb 16, 20182 min read


When prayers bounce off the ceiling...
I am deeply feeling some level of grief and anger. Yesterday 17 children were murdered in their high school, by another student. My heart...
Ashley Gray
Feb 15, 20182 min read


10 Random Things I think... you'll deal.
1. I know I don’t have much junk in the trunk, but I’m floored by all the songs that are about bums. Like what does it actually look like...
Ashley Gray
Feb 11, 20182 min read


10 Things I think... My Least Favorite Songs Edition
1. “911″ Mary J Blidge (who I’ll address later) and Wyclef Jean… Wyclef knew good and ____ well that he was sharp most of the song. Just...
Ashley Gray
Feb 11, 20183 min read


10 Things + I think... My Misfortune in NE DC Edition
1. You never quite know what area is categorized as the hood when you’ve moved out of town. I was told many times to be careful of NE DC...
Ashley Gray
Feb 11, 20184 min read


10 things I think... When I say Yes to the DRESS!
Listen, my feelings get hurt for the brides to be on Say Yes to the Dress. Folks are pretty careless in their critiques. So, in advance...
Ashley Gray
Feb 11, 20182 min read


My inner mean girl
I'm presenting at a national conference in March. I am nervous. I am excited. I am apparently also becoming obsessed with looking good at...
Ashley Gray
Feb 8, 20182 min read


10 Things I think about... Medical emergencies... almost.
Everyday a differnet co-pay 1. SO… I really love Brussel Sprouts and Asparagus… like LOVE them. One day I was trying to be fake vegan and...
Ashley Gray
Dec 31, 20173 min read
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